The Good,The Bad, The Ugly “Pastor Joseph Lephiew”



Complaining is within our human nature. It is just like selfish, prideful, and a few others.

No matter how hard you try not to complain, without even thinking there you go again.

Complaining about co workers, the boss, the spouse, the weather. We complain what we don’t have, what do have that we think we should have. We complain about the food we ordered, the waiter or waitress was to slow or rude. We complain about the drive people don’t know how to drive. No one does things as good as me.


We complain about the economy, the leaderships, on and on we go.


Complain, complain, complaining which is so destructive. There is a good side, bad side and ugly side of complaining.


Complaining reveals things about you. When we complain what we say reveals what’s in our heart.


Luke 6:45 “out of the heart the mouth speaks.”


Complaining reveals what’s in your heart.


1.​We feel entitled.

Entitled is believe you are deserving of certain rights and Privileges.  ​​

This can be positive and negative. Most use it negatively. When you think your deserving or privileges are above others. The word spoiled is associated with entitled.

Entitled is from the family of pride.


There was a talk show and the host said the theme today is “people who irritate you.”

A guy said this is going to be a great pod cast cause a lot people irritate me.

The host comes back on and says, “if people irritate you a lot your problem is not the people It is your Pride.


2.​We are impatient.​

Waiting on God is very difficult for most of us. This where we get in trouble when we try to speed things up or get ahead of God. Impatient people complain a lot.


3.​We hold on to resentments.

Grumbling, complains can not co-exist with thankfulness. Someone hurt us, offended us so we hold on to the offense looking for more offenses to support our feelings. Forgiveness is the best remedy.


4.​We compare ourselves with others.

We compare ourselves with people we see lower than us. This makes us feel better. I got more or smarter or more anointed, whatever. We rarely will compare ourselves with those superior to us. Both so theses are not positive. Compare your self to Jesus and humility will bless you.


5.​We don’t think is fair.

Where does this thinking come from? Growing up with parents who taught this by their parents. We grow up and giving this mindset that everything must be fair. Life is not fair. God is not fair according to human standards. Remember the teaching of the 3 who were given talents. The one had one, the other 2 and the last 5. The ones who had 5 and 2 doubled their profits. The one who only had one was afraid and did no business and buried his one talent. Which was money. The Master took his one and gave it to the one who had doubled his 5. That’s not fair. God took from the fearful and gave it to the faithful. This is God fair, not man fair.

Let’s look at God’s people and lessons we will learn from complainers and whiners.

“Now the people became like those who complain and whine about their hardships, and the Lord heard it; and when the Lord heard it, His anger was kindled, and the fire of the Lord burned among them and devoured those in the outlying parts of the camp.”

Numbers 11:1 AMP


Israelites were free from slavery and bondage and on the journey to the promised land. They were free. They were free. Not slaves no more on their way to a better blessed life that God had waiting for them.


Hardships is hard life, trouble, etc. We all will have hardships, troubles because God allows troubles to refine us. Just as he compares us to clay and He is the potter. Just like he compares us to gold being refined with hotter and hotter temperatures to purify the gold.


God allows it to let us see whats in us. What comes out of mouths? How do we act and react?

I seen a little child one day throw himself down on store floor screaming for some candy. The mom is embarrassed and the child is getting louder and louder. The mom is trying to calm him down and pleading for him to stop.


My first thoughts are you need to discipline him. I am from old school. The Bible says spare the rod spoil the child. The Bible says God chastens those he love. It must be done in love not anger.


Then I thought how many times do we look just like the child throwing our fits with God.


“We remember the fish we ate freely and without cost in Egypt, the cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions, and garlic. But now our appetite is gone; there is nothing at all [in the way of food] to be seen but this manna.””

Numbers 11:5-6 AMP


God supplies Manna. Food from Heaven. Called Angelic food from God. They got mad, upset and began to complain. Look at what they said, “we remember the fish we ate freely and without cost in Egypt. They only remember the fish not the slavery, not beatings, not the imprisonments and physical, mental abuse.


This complaining is about God. There is a difference in complaining about God and complaining to God. Complaining about God and His provisions causes us to become disobedient. They are complaining about what they are having to go thru and complaining about God and His manna food. They are complaining amongst themselves.


Church folks like to find a couple of people where we can complain together. Remember that old statement, “misery loves company.” “Birds of a feather flock together”. Complainers and whiners love to support each others sin.


Oh, I hear in the spirit, “If pastor would only do this or that.” If he would just turn me loose.


The people are complaining about God to Moses and complaining about Moses to each-other and Moses. They are murmuring and complaining. How spiritual are you when you are doing this?

Couples love complaining to their spouses or close friends. The sad thing is most people whom’ t stop their spouse or close friends and just sucked in.


When you are complaining and just speaking to your self or others you are sinning.


Moses gets sucked up into the culture.  


“So if this is the way You are going to deal with me, please kill me at once, if I have found favor in your sight, and do not let me see my wretchedness.””

Numbers 11:15 AMP


Now Moses is complaining to God. He tells God is this is the way your going to deal with me, just kill me.


If you are a good leader you must not follow or be led by complaining or complainers. We are called to lead and set the example. I will not put up with complainers. I have to correct leaders, pastors and family. I will not tolerate it. I am fortunate to have people around me who will not allow me to go there also. I was out to lunch with several pastors. They began to complain about people in their church. I stood up and told them I will not be apart of this kind of fellowship. If you listen and do not say anything to stop the negative talk you are guilty by association.


The church is complaining, the pastor is complaining, and now God must help them.


Remember your complaining will bring things to you. Remember how it says when you tithe and give your offerings it opens the windows of Heaven. Complaining closes the window and nothing is coming down from God.


“While the meat was still between their teeth, before it was chewed, the anger of the Lord was kindled against the people, and the Lord struck them with a very severe plague. So that place was named Kibroth-hattaavah (the graves of greediness), because there they buried the people who had been greedy [for more than the manna that God provided them].”

Numbers 11:33-34 AMP


Why would God call it greedy. They were greedy because they complained about what God provided. When God provides for us and we start to complaining we are slapping God in His face. What God provided was not good enough.


Watch out for the joy-stealers: gossip, criticism, complaining, faultfinding, and a negative, judgmental attitude.   Joyce Meyer

Complaining is dangerous business. It can damage or even destroy your relationship with God, your relationships with other people, and even with your relationship with yourself.  Joyce Meyer


“in every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus.”

1 Thessalonians 5:18 AMP


“Do everything without murmuring or questioning [the providence of God],”

Philippians 2:14 AMP










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