“‘AND YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL (life), AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND (thought, understanding), AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH.’ This is the second: ‘YOU SHALL [unselfishly] LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” MARK 12:30-31 AMP
This month our theme was accelerate relationships. We looked at accelerate our relationship with God, Neighbors, Family of God, and today we will look at accelerating our relationship with ourselves.
Accelerate your love for self. I realize there is scripture that says it is a negative to be lovers of self. There is a negative self love, selfish, all about me which is not love, self observed, self consumed. The negative is based on what you have, or accomplished, its all about the outside of you. There is a negative and positive side of this area of loving yourself.
We will look at the positive and negative side of self love. I believe that when we have love inside of us, we can release or give out love from inside out to others. It all starts out with loving God and then loving you neighbor AS YOURSELF.
I don’t believe you must love your self first. God said to love Him first, neighbor second as yourself.
There is an UNHEALTHY SELF LOVE, and there is a HEALTHY SELF LOVE. WE ARE LOOKING AT THE HEALTHY SELF LOVE.
“Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” PHILIPPIANS 2:4 AMP
In this verse we see the balance of loving ourselves enough to care for our own needs and loving others. There is a healthy, biblical way to love oneself.
Healthy self-love begins with an accurate view of who we are in Christ. It leaves no doubt that we are special. I am special. We were created by God, and He paid attention to the details.
There is no cookie-cutter person; we are each unique. Jesus told us that God numbers the hairs on our head. We matter to God. God has a plan for our lives. Our specialness comes from being created by God and we serve and belong to God, not anything else.
“I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.” PSALM 139:14 AMP
“You are the one who put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous! Of this I have no doubt.” Psalms 139:13-14 CEV
If we do not see ourselves through the eyes of God we then look at ourselves through our broken and dysfunctions human eyes.
Knowing without a shadow of doubt where you came from and who created you. If you understand God brought you into this world. You and I were not a mistake or an accident. Even if your earthly parents did not bless you, God created you for His Purpose and Plans.
God is my Father. Father God. You put me together and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me.
What did God Create? God created us perfect and beautiful and powerful. The moment you were born you brought into this world by humans and raised in a human world with human thoughts, disfunction, hurts, pains, distorted views.
A perfect creation born in an unperfect world with unperfect people. Unperfect human people saying negative things about how we look, how we perform, how not smart we are and how we don’t measure up to others.
God created us perfect and at birth we enter a world full of negative beliefs, fears, phobias, judgments, self destructive belief systems and we are programmed with ideas, thoughts, views, feelings, of who we really are not.
God put us together, God created it us. When He finished making man and woman He said IT IS GOOD. GOD SAID WE ARE WONDERFULLY MADE. WE ARE PRECIOUS IN HIS SIGHT.
David asked God to keep him as the apple of His eye. We are the apple of Gods eyes. He loves us. He cares about us. He hurts when we hurt. He wants us to become who He created us to be from the beginning. Sons and daughters who live the highest level of Gods Best and abundance.
Love yourself first because that is who you will spend the most time with. Healthy love starts with God first and others. You can love like this when Gods love is present inside of you.
When you have the wrong image of yourself and who you really are you listen to the lies of who the liar says you are. The liar, through failure, mistakes, losses, abuses, traumatic experiences tells you who he says you are. The other side is success you think you better than others because you have a measure of success. Both are negative self images.
I guy walks into a little tattoo shop and this small old Chinese tattoo artist was finishing up a tattoo on this guys arm and it said, “Born Looser.” The guy left and the young guys asked the old tattoo artist why someone would tattoo such a negative word on himself? The old man said, “tattoo has been on his heart and mind long before i put it on his arm.
The liar wants you to believe a lie about you and who you really are.
Self-esteem and Self-Worth.
Self-esteem is the manner in which we evaluate ourselves. It is our internal assessment of our qualities and attributes. We have healthy self-esteem when what we think, feel, and believe about ourselves is honest and realistic. Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem depends on gathering evidence about what we are like as a person.
Unhealthy self-esteem, on the other hand, can present itself in the form of two extremes. Firstly, you can think too highly of yourself, which can lead you to fall into the trap of narcissism. When your self-esteem is too high, you exaggerate your positive traits or deceive yourself about your faults and weaknesses. A narcissist may believe that his or her opinion matters more than anyone else’s, based on the self-perception that he or she is smarter than everyone.
In contrast, when you have low self-esteem, you underestimate – or flat out ignore – your positive characteristics. If you struggle with low self-esteem, then you may tell yourself that you are stupid, lazy, boring, selfish, inconsiderate, or generally a bad person because of the things you think, say, and do. You view yourself through a harsh and negative filter. It becomes difficult to understand why people enjoy your company or sincerely believe any compliments that people give you.
Self-esteem is your view of you from the things outside of you. This is why super high or super low this is destructive to you becoming who Christ made you to be.
Self-esteem is on a worldly plane. What I mean by that is you are basing your value on what you see and experience on this earth. You are searching and longing for something and trying to find it within the people and things around you. You try to “fit in with the crowd”, blend in and pass as a normal person.You are limiting yourself from seeing and experiencing another way.
Self-worth on the other hand, is the essence that makes you alive.There is nothing you could feel, say, do, or think that would increase it or decrease it, it just is. There is only one level. It is steady, trustworthy and fulfilling.
Your thoughts consist of “I have infinite value”, “I can accomplish anything”, “I love my life”, “I am the equal to all men…no greater, no less”, “I am beautiful”, “I am loved”, and “I make a difference in everything I do” just to name a few.
Self-worth is on a spiritual plane. What I mean by that is you have always been of great value from the beginning of your creation. Your self-worth is what you are ultimately longing to find. Well, you can stop looking. The search is over. Everything you need and want is already inside of you.
Let’s go Spirit, to help you remember the authentic you. The beautiful, wonderful, talented, joyful, faith filled, true, integral, etc……….
“Children, you belong to God, and you have defeated these enemies. God’s Spirit is in you and is more powerful than the one who is in the world.” 1 John 4:4 CEV.
Contemporary English version. 4-19.
In the Contemporary English Version, Self-worth is recognizing “I am greater than all of those things”. It is a deep knowing that I am of value, that I am lovable, necessary to this life, and of incomprehensible worth. It is possible to feel “high self-esteem,” or in other words, to think I’m good at something, yet still not feel convinced that I am loveable and worthy. Self-esteem doesn’t last or “work” without self-worth.