Updated: Feb 28
6/21/2021 PART 2:
Father’s Day is very special to me. I did not have a Father until I realized I had the most Amazing Father of all, God. He was in my life from the very beginning. He has been my Father and will continue to be my father until I join him in Heaven. He was and is and will always be my Father.
One of the things that I feel Fathers do is look back and feel they did not do this right or that right. I remember reading books, articles on how to be a good dad. I was clueless. Really there are no instructions on how to be a perfect Father. Well, except the Bible.
When I felt unsure of my fathering abilities I was talking to God one day. I remember complaining that I really messed up with my kids in some areas. I was going on and on about it. I stopped and then I read in Genesis and seen God who is the ultimate Father and how His kids acted.
I want to celebrate every Father, Grandfather, Great grandfathers today. To every man and young man who will one day be a Father, I will speak to you today.
A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.
In the Bible, there are lots of accounts of Fathers and children to teach from. I wanted to share from Solomon son of David. This is the perspective of a son who is teaching what his father gave him.
David we all know. David was chosen by God not because he was perfect. David had a heart for God. When you read of his life you can see his struggles with relationships, parenting, leadership, lust, anger, and many other things. We see the pain, struggles, and even dysfunction of his life and home. Yet, God still says this is my man. A man after my own heart.
When you understand this you will be free to love, to forgive, to give again. A father is more than just a paycheck and provider. A father is the leader, the guide, the protector, the spiritual covering for the home.
A lesson from a father from his father. A lesson from Solomon from his dad King David.
1. Proverbs 4:1 AMP. “Hear, O children, the instruction of a father, And pay attention [and be willing to learn] so that you may gain understanding and intelligent discernment.”
This is a message to Fathers and to his children and everyone.
A. Hear, o children: how many times do you remember yelling at your kids to listen to you. I remember yelling, “Do you hear me?” Even the Word says, “faith comes by hearing.”
Hearing is crucial to receive anything from God or anyone else. Hearing goes both ways. We want to hear without distractions.
I remember Falicidy when she was a little girl and she would get frustrated when she was talking and my head was looking at people or trying to speak to others. She would grab my face and say, “dad active listening.” She would do this all the time. She wanted me to listen and hear her.
Solomon is saying get the distractions done and listen and hear the instructions of a father.
B. Instructions means: the action, practice, or profession of teaching.
C. Pay attention means: The act or the power of fixing the mind on something : careful listening or watching. Careful thinking about something so as to be able to take action on it.
I remember Yvonne’s grandma yelling at people saying, “you putta attention.” Meaning to say pay attention.
D. Be willing to learn means: God is all about us learning. One of the privileges of being a dad is to share and teach. Show your kids how to do things that will benefit them when they grow up.
E. Gain understanding and intelligent discernment means: Our Father wants us to be safe, successful and productive. He wants us to be able to pass on these lessons to our children and grandchildren.
I had an early morning conversation with DaisyRose about life. Her dreams and then lessons about God. Why people believe in all the different theories about Creation and not believe in God Creation? This and other questions she had for me. Wonderful times as a grandfather.
As I was sharing with her and she was asking question it reminded me of how God wants so bad to have those conversations with us. He wants to hear from us. He wants to share directions, guidance. He wants to celebrate you. He wants to discipline you because He loves you.
2. Proverbs 4:2 AMP. “For I give you good doctrine; Do not turn away from my instruction.”
God is saying thru Solomon My children i give you good doctrine.
A. Doctrine means: Something (as a rule or principle) that is taught, believed in, or considered to be true.
B. Do not turn away from my instructions.
Our Father already knows so much more than us. Any father who has lived and has experience know things. What is good and not so good. When you turn away from the instruction what ever your making will fall apart. How to be blessed and how to be cursed. Learn from our mistakes please.
By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.
3. “When I was a son with my father (David), Tender and the only son in the sight of my mother (Bathsheba),”
Proverbs 4:3 AMP
When I read this it reminded me that our children remember.
Proverbs 22:6 AMP. “Train up a child in the way he should go [teaching him to seek God’s wisdom and will for his abilities and talents], Even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
God told stories. Good the bad and the ugly for benefit. Fathers share with your children. They will share with theirs.
4. “He taught me and said to me, “Let your heart hold fast my words; Keep my commandments and live.”
Proverbs 4:4 AMP
I love this statement.
A. He Taught Me.
B. Said to me.
C. Let your HEART HOLD FAST MY WORDS.
D. KEEP MY COMMANDMENTS
E. AND LIVE
Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.