Hurts, Pains, and Betrayal

Joseph LephiewSeries, Sermons, STORM PROOF YOUR LIFE

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STORM PROOF YOUR LIFE: Answers to life’s toughest questions. How to handle tuff times.

Hurts, Pains and Betrayal.

Letting Go and Moving On

The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.” “Life will betray you; God will never.”

At some point and time in our lives, we’ve felt the hurtful sting of betrayal. That pain is something that we have the choice of carrying with us for the rest of our lives or learning to let go of it and move on. The Bible deals with the topic of betrayal quite a bit, telling us how it hurts, how to forgive, and even how to let ourselves heal.

Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.”

It really is not so much as to what happens to you as it is how you respond to the hurt, pain or betrayal. We all will experience hurts. Growing up as a child, we will have hundreds of hurts that we experience through living life.

As a child we receive hurts from parents, teachers, Sunday school teachers, bosses, co- workers, even family members. I see the hurts as scares. Many times we get hurt because we we are human. We have feelings.

When someone hurts your feelings most people shut up and shut down and keep the hurt inside. What happens if you keep scratching an area of hurt? It won’t heal, you keep it fresh, the pain last much longer.

This is what most people do when we get hurt. We rehearse the hurt over and over in our heads, with our mouth and even may find someone to help us stay in the hurt and offense.

These are those ears who keep you stuck in the pain. It is one thing to share a hurt and get it out of us, it is another to keep on speaking, feeling the hurt over and over and over.

If and when you do this, the hurt will work its way into your thinking and will try to become apart of your subconscious thinking and get into your HEART. This is like when a person hurts you, right away you see every person like you see them.

All men are no good, or all women just want. We set up a mini prison for ourselves by our hurts and feelings. These negative, destructive feelings and emotions imprison us and keep us locked in and love, joy, peace and power locked out.

Feelings are from God. They were given to help us navigate through life. They were never meant to lead and guide us and our decisions.

God intends for His Spirit to lead and guide us. Hurts physical, emotional, mental all hurt. We feel them but how will you respond to them is the question.

HURTS ARE APART OF LIFE THAT GOD IS AWARE OF. GOD DOES NOT HURT US BUT HE ALLOWS THE HURT. THEY KEY IS TO SEE THE MUCH BIGGER PICTURE. WE LIVE IN AN IMPERFECT WORLD, WITH IMPERFECT PEOPLE WITH OUR IMPERFECT SELVES.

HURTS WILL HAPPEN. PAIN IS PRODUCED. IT HURTS AND IT IS PAINFUL WHEN SOMEONE OR SOMETHING HURTS YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS.

THIS IS THE WORD GOD GAVE ME TO REMIND ME WHEN THINGS HAPPEN THAT HURT ME.

“And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.”
Romans 8:28 AMP

GOD CAN TAKE A MESS AND TURN IT INTO A MASTERPIECE. GOD CAN TAKE A HURT AND CREATE HEALING. GOD CAN TAKE PAIN AND RELEASE PROMISES WITH PEACE. GOD CAN TAKE BETRAYAL AND TURN YOU INTO A BEAUTIFUL, LOVING, POWERFUL PERSON. MANY PEOPLE SHARE WOUNDS OF BEING HURT BY THE CHURCH. MINISTERS ARE PEOPLE AND HUMAN TOO. I HAVE MY SHARE OF HURTS.

THIS ONE TIME, OVER THE YEARS MANY HAVE HURT ME BUT I FELT LIKE I FORGAVE THEM. ONE TIME A YOUNG MAN INVITED ME TO ATTEND A CELEBRATION OF HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS. THE YOUNG MAN HAD LEFT OUR CHURCH AND HAD CONVINCED OTHERS TO LEAVE. I WAS ANGERY AND HURT. A FEW YEARS LATER HE GRADUATES AND INVITES YVONNE AND I TO HIS CELEBRATION. MY MIND IS WONDERING WHY INVITE ME.

DON’T YOU REMEMBER WHAT YOU DID TO ME?

I AM ANGRY. THE HURT AND PAIN RISE UP WITHIN ME. I COULD FEEL THE SAME FEELINGS OF BETRAYAL JUST AS WHEN IT HAPPENED TO ME.

I DID NOT WANT TO GO. PASTOR YVONNE CONVINCED ME TO GO. I WAS SUPPOSED TO GO, BUT MY FLESH, MY HURT AND PAIN WAS GETTING IN THE WAY.

WE GO. WHEN I DRIVE UP I CAN SEE OTHERS, MANY OTHERS WHO HAVE HURT ME OVER THE YEARS OF MINISTRY. 30 PLUS PEOPLE. CRAZY HUH.

I AM ANGRY AT GOD, I AM HAVING A FIT WITH GOD. I AM DEMANDING WHY GOD DID YOU DO THIS TO ME? WHY DID YOU BRING ME HERE TO GET MORE HUMILIATED?

YVONNE JUST SAYS LET GO SEE THEM. I WOULD NOT GO. SHE LEAVES AND I JUST HAVE MORE FITS WITH GOD. HOW COULD YOU GOD DO THIS TO ME, I SAID.

GOD SAYS TO ME, “GO OVER AND BLESS THEM ALL.” I AM RIPE, I AM SERIOUSLY HAVING A MELT DOWN WITH GOD. I THINK I TOLD GOD, “ARE YOU CRAZY, DO YOU KNOW WHAT THOSE PEOPLE DID TO ME?”

THEN I HEAR GOD SAY, DO YOU REMEMBER WHAT THEY DID TO ME, AND I STILL GAVE AND SAVED AND LOVE.

SO I GO OVER AND I AM GOING TO BLESS THEM ALL. I AM FIGHTING IT, I AM NOT HAPPY WITH GOD BUT I WILL OBEY.

THE FIRST COUPLE CAME UP TO ME AND SAID PASTOR LEPHIEW SO GOOD TO SEE YOU. WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH. WE ARE YOUTH PASTORS IN THIS CHURCH. THEY WENT ON TO SHARE MORE WITH ME.

THE NEXT COUPLE CAME UP AND SAID ALMOST THE SAME THING, THEY WERE ALL INVOLVED IN MINISTRIES, ALL SERVING GOD. SOME WERE WORSHIP LEADERS, PASTORS, YOUTH LEADERS, ALL WERE ACTIVELY SERVING GOD AND IN A LOCAL CHURCH.

I BEGAN TO BLESS THEM ALL AND AS I LEFT GOD SPEAKS TO ME. ALL THE YEARS I FELT HURT, PAIN AND BETRAYAL FROM THESE PEOPLE THEY MOVED ON AND WERE DOING GREAT. I HELD ON TO THE HURT AND PAIN AND BETRAYAL. NOT ONE OF THEM REMEMBERED THE THINGS THEY DID. I WAS THE ONLY PERSON WHO DID REMEMBER.

I WAS THE ONE KEEPING THE WOUND ALIVE AND FRESH WHICH KEEPT HURTING ME.

I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO REMEMBERED AND KEPT THE HURT ALIVE BY MY HURT.

ALL THOSE YEARS I THOUGHT I FORGAVE THEM, I DID NOT FORGIVE THEM. I FORGOT THEM. THE MOMENT I WAS FACE TO FACE WITH THEM, THE OLD HURTS BECAME BRAND NEW AGAIN, THE PAINS I FELT WAY BACK WHEN, I NOW FELT THEM AGAIN.

THERE IS A WONDERFUL STORY OF GOD’S PLAN IN SPITE OF HURT, PAIN, AND BETRAYAL. JOSEPH IS GIVEN A VISION FROM GOD AND HE SHARES IT WITH HIS BROTHERS. HE IS THE YOUNGEST AND THEY BECOME SO FILLED WITH JEALOUSY. THEY TRAPPED HIM AND THRU HIM IN A PIT AND SOLD HIM AS A SLAVE. THEY MADE IT OUT LIKE HE WAS KIDNAPPED AND KILLED. FATHER WAS LED TO BELIEVE HE WAS DEAD.

YEARS LATER THE STUFF THAT JOSEPH GOES THRU IS CRAZY. HE IS SOLD AS A SLAVE.

FALSELY ACCUSED BY THE WIFE OF HIS OWNER SO HE IS IMPRISONED AND NOW GOD LIFTS HIM UP IN PRISON. NO MATTER WHAT LIES, BETRAYAL, HURTS AND PAINS JOSEPH KEEPS HIS FAITH IN HIS GOD AND HOLDS ONTO THE PROMISES OF HIS GOD. JOSEPH GOES FROM THE PIT, POTOPHERS WIFE, TO PRISON, EVENTUALLY TO THE PALACE.

JOSEPH SHOULD OF BEEN BITTER. JOSEPH HAS AN OPPORTUNITY TO PAY BACK HIS BROTHERS FOR THE EVIL THEY DID TO HIM BUT HE DOES NOT.

“And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.”
Romans 8:28 AMP

This is how to get out of offense, bitterness, anger, jealousy, resentment, and many of the other negative and destructive forces associated with your feelings.

If we believe this scripture there is a much bigger picture. Just because you can’t see it yet does not mean it does not exist. Faith says so. When we are not in faith we see only the hurt, the offense, the pain and betrayal.

“And He did not do many miracles there [in Nazareth] because of their unbelief.”
Matthew 13:58 AMP

WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS WHAT YOU RELESE AND RECEIVE. JOSEPH HELD ONTO GOD AND HIS PROMISES IN SPITE OF ALL THE BETRAYALS. WE MUST SEE GOD IN THE MIDST OF PAINFUL DARKNESS.

LISTEN TO JOSEPHS RESPONSE TO HIS BROTHERS BEING AFRAID OF HIS REVENGE.

“Now do not be distressed or angry with yourselves because you sold me here, for God sent me ahead of you to save life and preserve our family.”
Genesis 45:5 AMP

“So now it was not you who sent me here, but God; and He has made me a father to Pharaoh and lord of all his household and ruler over all the land of Egypt.”
Genesis 45:8 AMP

“As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present outcome, that many people would be kept alive [as they are this day]. So now, do not be afraid; I will provide for you and support you and your little ones.” So he comforted them [giving them encouragement and hope] and spoke [with kindness] to their hearts.”
Genesis 50:20-21 AMP